How To Pull Away From Bad Friends
Sometimes in life it dawns on us that we may not be keeping the right company.
When we literally wake up from a dream to find ourselves around people
who don't complement our inner build or our noble objectives, which may have
strayed away from our conscience for time enough to have us find ourselves with
such company, or fail to realize we were keeping such.
This could happen naturally when we lose hold of our objectives, of our
dreams.
It is difficultly inevitable for people who don't have a focus, as
a mind focused on whichever objective is kept on a straight path, free from
distractions which nonetheless are always present and ready to exploit any hole
in our path in the form of a lack of focus.
Such situations of bad company are often difficult to handle, as they
are seldom approached in the right way. Let's see how we can stray naturally
away from bad friends without getting noticed.
#1. Change your program.
Deviate from the routine you normally follow with your unwanted friends.
Get something new to do; it could be registering for piano lessons or making it
a habit to go playing tennis or whatever constructive activity you may choose,
at the specific time when you guys usually meet.
This could make them raise their eyebrows but don't panic. Stay familiar
to them, talk the usual way, do the usual things but reduce your time with them
for a start. One or some of them may also, slowly realise the wrong in their
company through your veiled change.
#2. You may for a start make a new
friend
whose ways compliment your views and objectives. This you may present
casually to your unwanted friends. Maybe somebody you met at your new activity.
Your friends may expect that the new figure joins the gang, and if this doesn't
happen they may see the new friend as a rival or an enemy depending on how much
you matter to them.
If you matter that much, you have an upper hand and a possibility to
draw your friends into light. At this point, you have to discern and judge.
#3. Do more of your new activity.
Increase the time you spend at your new constructive activities while
reducing that spent with your unwanted fellows. If you matter to the group,
some may find interest in your new activity and try drawing closer to you by
joining you in it. If this happens, then they, knowingly or not, look up to you
in the group.
That being the case, then you have the potential of transforming the
lives of your friends together with yours. That will be wonderful! However if
your friends make no effort to draw closer to you or to show concern for your
new attitude, you may once in a while check on them, until you are actually
rejected.
#4. Make more new friends
who suit your views and may help you change. This may seal the process
of your change of influence. If your friends don't begin to change alongside
you, this is your only valid option left. You can become a new person by either
changing friends entirely but this time, keep your objectives in a focused
mind. This is what makes a good leader, and it takes a good leader to achieve a
worthy dream.
Note that it may be more complicated in the case of a criminal gang of
friends, in which case much more care should be taken and if necessary, the
police or social services may be alerted. It is more noble to admit a fault and
go down for it than to die in it.
These four simple steps if handled meticulously, and in chronology, should be
enough to rescue us from bad influence. They however will never work if there
is an inch of fear in you. Kill your fears and take control of your life. Every
meaningful and directed life is packed with difficult decisions and choices.
Good Luck.
By Ngole E. Stanley
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